Love, InshAllah

The Secret Love Lives of American Muslim Women

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This “book that strips off the traditional trappings of Islamic womanhood to expose the special strengths and vulnerabilities that lie beneath” (The Washington Post) affirms the reality of the romantic lives of Muslim women.

Romance, dating, sex and—Muslim women? In this groundbreaking collection, twenty-five American Muslim writers sweep aside stereotypes to share their search for love openly for the first time, showing just how varied the search for love can be—from singles’ events and online dating, to college flirtations and arranged marriages, all with a uniquely Muslim twist.

These stories are filled with passion and hope, loss and longing: A quintessential blonde California girl travels abroad to escape suffocating responsibilities at home, only to fall in love with a handsome Brazilian stranger she may never see again. An orthodox African-American woman must face her growing attraction to her female friend. A young girl defies her South Asian parents’ cultural expectations with an interracial relationship. And a Southern woman agrees to consider an arranged marriage, with surprising results.

These compelling stories of love and romance create an irresistible balance of heart-warming and tantalizing, always revealing and deeply relatable.

“A beautiful collection that reminds us all not only of the diversity of the American Muslim community, but the universality of the human condition, especially when it comes to something as magical and complicated as love.” —Reza Aslan, #1 New York Times bestselling author of God: A Human History

“Portraits of private lives that expose a group in some cases kept literally veiled, yet that also illustrate that American Muslim women grapple with universal issues.” —The New York Times

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Praise for Love, InshAllah

"24 portraits of private lives that expose a group in some cases kept literally veiled, yet that also illustrate that American Muslim women grapple with universal issues." --The New York Times

"Love InshAllah [goes] to a place where few, if any, books have gone before. Lesbians, co-wives, converts to Islam, Shia, Sunni, black, brown and white: Every voice is unique. Collectively, they sing of strength, passion and love. One can't help but to sit back and listen, captivated." --Samina Ali, author of Madras on Rainy Days

"A beautiful collection that reminds us all not only of the diversity of the American Muslim community, but the universality of the human condition, especially when it comes to something as magical and complicated as love." --Reza Aslan, bestselling author of No god but God and Beyond Fundamentalism

"Individually, the stories in Love, InshAllah will entertain, educate and perhaps shock you. Together, they are a tribute to the collective power of storytelling, inspiring and empowering women of all backgrounds to claim ownership of their bodies, desires and dreams." --Firoozeh Dumas, author of Funny in Farsi and Laughing without an Accent

"This book is an irreverent, witty reality-check. The women in this book are not only fulfilling a mission close to my heart--telling their own stories as Muslim American women, shattering stereotypes, building bridges--but they are doing so in a way that will entertain you, shock you, and make you fall in love with them." --Zahra Suratwala, author of the I Speak for Myself series

"Love, Inshallah is an important book that America needs to embrace. It debunks many of the myths about Muslim-American women and their sexuality, which has been demonized, fetishized, and grotesquely misunderstood. Deep, funny, sad, revealing, and illuminating, this book will touch your brain, your heart, and perhaps several other organs." --David Henry Sterry, bestselling author of Chicken

"With a sonic boom, Love, InshAllah breaks through the tired sound bytes and stereotypes that can drown out authentic voices of Muslim women. This refreshingly diverse collection of stories about heartbreak, happily-ever-afters, and everything in between, affirms that no one--orthodox or progressive, gay or straight--is immune from the universal hunger to love and be loved."--Nafisa Haji, award-winning author of The Writing on My Forehead and The Sweetness of Tears

"Frank, engrossing and refreshingly honest, Love, InshAllah is a book full of hidden surprises. For a topic as fraught with controversy as Muslim women's sexuality, shockingly little has been published on the subject by Muslim women themselves. Love InshAllah is a welcome and timely remedy."
--G. Willow Wilson, award-winning author of The Butterfly Mosque and Alif the Unseen

"These are gorgeously powerful women who love men and women, fight and laugh, lie to themselves and hold back nothing. You'll fall for some and be frustrated by others. You will see yourself in them. And, I wager, you will not be able to put down these stories of women risking themselves for love." --Dr. Laury Silvers, University of Toronto and author of A Soaring Minaret: Abu Bakr al-Wasiti and the Rise of Baghdadi Sufism

"In Islam, women are seen as the manifestations of God's attributes of love and beauty. These remarkable stories capture what love means to Muslim women today. As the Sufis say, the quest for the beloved is ultimately the heart's longing to unite with God. Listen with an open heart as these Muslim women reveal their journeys into the divine mystery of love." --Kamran Pasha, author of Mother of the Believers and Shadow of the Swords

"Love, Inshallah is unbelievable in its audacity. Not all of our authors find love, and God and God's Will are just as often felt by their absence as by their presence. The brutal honesty that these women portray is refreshing and frightening. Nearly every story reveals another aspect of the human condition, and makes you appreciate that even among people who share the same faith, love can mean something very different." --Dr. Hussein Rashid, Hofstra University and Religion Dispatches

"Love, InshAllah is the most moving and emotionally honest book I have read in a long time. These bold new voices share stories that are romantic in the very best sense of the word - by turns intimate, sexy, funny and sad."
--Clare Winterton, Executive Director of the International Museum of Women

"Given the damage done by Muslim men, non-Muslim men, and non-Muslim women claiming the sexual lives of Muslim women as their political territory, these stories provide a desperately needed corrective. The authors have created their own spaces. The achievement is profound. Love and religion get mixed up in beautiful, painful, confusing, and liberating human ways. A crucial literary intervention for anyone who can't see Muslim women as human beings." --Michael Muhammad Knight, author of The Taqwacores

"Love, InshAllah is beauty on paper. You know how books are referred to as page turners? I've not met many until this one. Each story is as captivating as the next, the writers bravely peeling back the corners of the heart, inviting the reader into their diverse worlds. Please read this book. It will help you access your vulnerability and the secrets of your own love story."--Kathy LeMay, author of The Generosity Plan

"This illuminating anthology edited by Nura Maznavi and Ayesha Mattu presents stories by American Muslim women on dating, love, marriage, heartbreak, remorse, lust and longing. It's a work that should be applauded, not only for its rarity and timeliness, but also for its ability to celebrate these utterly normal, healthy, messy, and all-too human discussions about love and sexuality which for too long have been buried under a veil of shame, fear, and self-imposed censorship." --Wajahat Ali, author of Domestic Crusaders

"Love, InshAllah showcases tremendous diversity. Each story weaves a different tale about love, sexuality, and the negotiation of faith and identity with lived realities. Yet what makes the book special is its celebration of differences and the ultimate transcendence of love. It is this common experience that connects not just the writers, but also the readers, pulled in as we are to these resonant, human stories told with exceptional skill." --Asma T. Uddin, founder and editor-in-chief of

"Deeply touching and intimate, the twenty-five stories in Love, InshAllah reveal the elegance and universality of love and faith. Written by American Muslim women of all ages, races and ethnicities, they reveal the full range of human experience. A perfect book to upend the stereotypes of veiled and abused Muslim women, these tales are filled with hope and humor and life. I loved it!" --Irving Karchmar, author of Master of the Jinn: A Sufi Novel

"Ayesha and Nura have curated a selection of stories and voices that will be both utterly familiar and new to readers, whether they are American Muslims or not. How we understand what love and America look like is expanded and made more representative of this country we all share thanks to this collection."
--Alia Malek, author of A Country Called Amreeka

"These essays are meaningful, poignant, and powerful. I'm so grateful for these glimpses into the lives of American Muslim women, all of whom feel to me now like cousins I'm glad to finally know." --Rabbi Rachel Barenblat, author of 70 Faces: Torah Poems

"A compelling and moving anthology. Queer, straight, Sunni, Shia, polygynous, monogamous, strongly practicing or barely observant--this book captures it all. The writers' humanity and struggle comes searing off the pages, showing that while the path to love is never easy, it can be beautiful. While each story belongs to the unique woman who wrote it, their stories are united by a thread of hope; the very basis of 'inshAllah.'" --Susan Carland, Monash University

"Love, InshAllah provides us a rare glimpse into the intimate lives of Muslim women from very different backgrounds. The stories show that although the roadmap may be unique, the destination is universal--to love and be loved for who we are." --Manal Omar, author of Barefoot in Baghdad

"Love, InshAllah takes us into an uncharted world where each woman's search for love burns as hotly and uniquely as stars in the night sky."
--Jensine Larsen, founder and CEO of World Pulse

"If you thought that you knew everything about Muslim women and love, life and relationships, then think again. This collection is challenging and provocative. You'll be surprised, even shocked at their stories and the honesty with which they lay open their joys, as well as their vulnerable and sometimes wounded hearts." --Shelina Janmohamed, author of Love in a Headscarf

"Brilliant! Taken individually, the stories elicit the cringes, smiles and tears of readers. As a collection, Love, InshAllah paints a careful narrative of tensions, struggles, fears and ecstasy in the lives of these women as they search for love, peace and the Divine. This anthology may raise controversy and ire among some readers, but it fearlessly paints a portrait of Muslim life that can only find a home in US literature." --Dr. Arshad Ali, Teachers College, Columbia University