Seeing as Your Shoes Are Soon to Be on Fire


by Liza Monroy

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Paperback | 5.9 x 8.9, 300 pages | ISBN 9781593766498

Liza Monroy’s new book is collection of deeply personal essays that tackle the universal themes of romantic and familial love, fate and chance, all told in a humorous and intelligent manner that keeps the reader yearning for more. Created in the wake of Liza’s popular essays- including her piece for the Modern Love column in the New York TimesSeeing As Your Shoes Are Soon To Be On Fire chronicles Liza’s many misadventures in her quest for love. These misadventures span a variety of countries and a variety of men, all bound together under the watchful eye of her eccentric, single mother, a profiler for the U.S. State Department, who is soon using her professional aptitude to weed out the men in her daughter’s path.

Filled with quirky details and archetypal characters from our everyday lives, with stories that are both wildly hilarious and deeply heartfelt, Seeing As Your Shoes Are Soon To Be On Fire is both a vulnerably open testament to Liza’s personal experiences and an intriguing work that confronts the odds of finding love and intimacy in the increasingly depersonalized world of technology.

Thrilling, enigmatic, wow! and beautifully observed--these are just a few of the things I’ve written in the margins of these essays. Liza Monroy’s writing is as fun as it is profound, as lively as it is moving--this is a book you’ll want to tell people about.

—Elizabeth McKenzie, author of The Portable Veblen

Unlike some of the skinflint, unreliable, or downright psychotic male suitors who appear in her outstanding memoir, Liza Monroy is a great date - a masterful storyteller, witty, urbane, tender, and hilarious. This is a fast-paced, deftly written, unsparing, and hilarious journey through the landscape of bad love. Monroy’s imperious, charming, boyfriend-deporting Mom, AKA The Profiler, is a memoir character for the ages; she seems to have emerged, fully formed, from the pages of a Philip Roth novel.

—Dan White, author of Under the Stars and The Cactus Eaters

Despite its breezy style, Monroy’s provocative memoir offers more emotional food for thought than can possibly be digested in one sitting. After only reading the introduction, one might wish to remain quiet for a few minutes and ponder her use of the phrase gender-neutral marriage...As such, this phraseology perfectly embodies Monroy’s intentional marriage to a gay man. Though fraught with one psychological or legal time bomb after another, the marriage worked, despite the unimaginable odds. The book is bright. It’s chatty. But Monroy manages to deliver a hefty emotional wallop.

Booklist, Starred Review

Through an absurdly beautiful act of devotion, which forced her to become an outlaw, in a time (now) and a country (ours) where the laws are cruel and outdated, Liza Monroy emerges as both an artist and a hero.

—Nick Flynn

This book is a blast -- it’s a political act, a buddy story, a love story, and a family saga gone beautifully and tenderly wrong. Read it.

—Anthony Swofford, New York Times bestselling author of Jarhead

An irresistible blend of candor, humor, insight, lively prose, and plain old humanity, this roller coaster of a memoir about relationships, place, and displacement is so much fun to read!

—Phillip Lopate

The Marriage Act is a gripping, cinematic page-turner that, as the best memoirs do, opens avenues to larger, zeitgeisty conversations. Here, immigration, civil rights, gender issues, and same-sex marriage are high-stakes backdrops of a deeply personal, affecting tale of love, friendship, and family.

—Julia Scheeres, bestselling author of Jesus Land and A Thousand Lives

The best part about the gay marriage debate (and its reality) is the opportunity for each of us to think about what marriage means to us--to name and practice the values it represents. For Liza Monroy, marriage is a path to justice, a commitment to a friend, and, above all, marriage is love.

—Jennifer Baumgardner, author of We Do! American Leaders Who Believe in Marriage Equality

Monroy questions the meanings of friendship, love, discrimination, and breaking boundaries. But her wicked sense of humor makes The Marriage Act a brisk, entertaining read. You’ll never think of ’love and marriage’ the same way again.

—Leora Tanenbaum, author of Slut! Growing Up Female with a Bad Reputation

Love is not a limited commodity. Sexuality enjoys limits far beyond heterosexual monogamy. And marriage is a promise limited only by those who make it. The Marriage Act doesn’t just change the game when it comes to how we think about love and sex and marriage. It creates an entirely new one that we’re all about to play.

—Jenny Block, author of Open: Love

With The Marriage Act, Liza Monroy portrays a critical moment in our nation’s troubled history of attempting to legislate love while also opening a space for future iterations of the institution that go beyond arguments of gender and into notions of friendship, passion, and dedication. A remarkable and generous book.

—Cris Beam, author of To the End of June: The Intimate Life of American Foster Care

...she writes and lives courageously. Monroy’s timely memoir rises beyond sex and politics, ultimately revealing that only two partners themselves can determine what makes their love and union authentic.

Publishers Weekly

Written with wit and wisdom, Monroy captures the mysterious essence of what tugs at our hearts, what makes certain human relationships love affairs, friendships, partnerships. The lines that divide us, the rings that bring us together, and how to find hope when it all falls apart.

Interview Magazine

Liza Monroy, wise beyond her years, brilliantly portrays the highs and lows and loves of school life, the episodes we’ve all experienced and never forget. Spirited, harrowing, and utterly compelling, Monroy’s captivating voice will be with you long after you’ve finished reading.

—Oscar Hijuelos, Pulitzer Prize-winning author of The Mambo Kings Play Songs of Love

Liza Monroy’s coming of age story set in Mexico manages to be hot, hilarious, and heartbreaking--all at the same time. A stunning debut.

—Susan Shapiro, author of Lighting Up and Five Men Who Broke My Heart

Liza Monroy has a magical voice, the kind that makes you want to read the next sentence and then the one after that to see what turn her writing will take next. She is observant, funny, and curiously wise about the culture we live and flounder in.

—Daphne Merkin, author of Dreaming of Hitler and Enchantment

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